Rey passed away peacefully on Nov.8, 2020. Much loved and greatly missed by many. Now onward to his next adventure. Rey’s mission in life was being a friend and helping others; which he shared in many spheres of influence-- friend, husband, grandpa, uncle, neighbour, teacher, mentor, coach, writer, storyteller, lifelong learner, and spiritual warrior.
Raised in San Francisco, Rey attended UCLA, SFState, and Berkeley, moving to Victoria in 1971. He was a UVic professor until 1992; and then pursued his passion, becoming a consultant and lifelong leader in peer helping, mentoring, and professional coaching. Rey wrote and talked about coaching and mentoring as ways of being supportive and helpful, in both professional and personal contexts; and generously shared his knowledge, his expertise, his interests, and himself.
Rey enjoyed many interests including squash, cycling, building things, gardening, gym workouts, great music, reading, watching good movies and TV series, and appreciating delicious food, esp. Mexican and chocolate!
Rey was encouraging and supportive, focusing on solutions rather than problems. He helped us to discover that answers are waiting to be found within ourselves. He inspired people to be better, spreading goodness through every conversation and encounter, brightening their lives through connection. Rey was a bright spirit with passion for life and learning; an accomplished, creative, kind, gentle man. He was genuine, caring and generous; with a playful sense of humor. Rey touched the lives of all he knew. We have lost a great listener and friend.
Rey is lovingly remembered by his beloved wife Sarah, her son Jeff and wife Suzanne, grand-daughters Calissa and Ashtyn; EricB and Zoe; Rey’s dear niece Carolyn; nephews Sloan, Alexander, Andrew and Ron; cousins Mark (& Lori) and Larry (& Carol), sister-in-law Mary; and numerous relatives, dear friends and colleagues.
Reunited with brothers Alan and Sherman, cousin Larrie, parents Rose and Norman, and many friends and mentors gone before.
To the health workers who supported Rey, and many friends supporting the family at this difficult time—our heartfelt thank you.
Rey believed character matters, truth matters, and being a good person matters. His legacy is reflected in the people who knew him, carrying his stories, memories and lessons forward in our lives.
Rey will be ~~ Forever in our hearts, and Always an inspiration. ~~
In lieu of flowers, please plant a favourite local shrub or tree in your garden, in Rey’s memory.